1. Last night I went to my first Hip Hop Dance class. It was a whole lot of fun. It is so important to get out as a stay at home mom and do your own thing. There is something about taking a step out that makes you so happy to step back in. When I came back home Q was so happy to see me. I asked him if he wanted to help me bring the groceries in and he got so excited and happy and said with a sort of sweet desperation, "Yes, Please, Mama!" He is so sweet, so tenderhearted. The class also made me remember and think back to College and how fun it is to have a group instruction and to be able to learn with other people. I wouldn't go as far as to say I miss College, because I know how hard it is, but it sure was fun and I am glad I did it.
2. Last night I was putting Quincey to bed (way after his bed time), we were laying in the dark, and he asked me to read Where's Spot (his current favorite) to him. So, I started repeating all that I remembered... is Spot in the Closet? no, that's a monkey! (etc., ) Anyways, I finished all the ones I could remember and was pretty confident that I got them all and Quince started saying, " Bear please? Bear please? " (Apparently, I had forgotten the Bear). I didn't think much of this until this morning. Man, kids are so smart!! It is so fun to see how Quincey is learning and growing. Soon, he will be constantly correcting me because I am so old and don't remember anything. So, I appreciate the polite 'Bear please'.3. Yesterday, I was at the park with some friends from my MOMS club, and Quincey started wandering (and just so you know, this kid can go 0 to 60 in 'really fast time') towards the play sets, which were a bit of a distance from where we were at the picnic tables. He started making me nervous, getting a bit too close to the parking area, so I started to call and run after him, telling him to stay on the sidewalk... and of course, he doesn't even turn a head. (I did catch up with him and he is fine.) It just sometimes scares me how much this kid loves his independence. Telling him no is like setting fire on a desire to prove that he can. My friend Lara recommended this book...
I ordered it, and it should be here soon. She says it focuses on rewarding good behavior instead of just punishing the bad. I am hoping that it will give me a better idea on how to do this, because sometimes I feel like I am just saying 'no' all day long and to be honest Q loves getting attention any way he can get it, and 'no' makes him want to do it even more. So, we will see. I don't normally read a lot of Parent Help Guides, because there are a lot of opinions out there, and most of the time, I think it is important just to stick with your gut... but, this seems to be what my gut is telling me! ;)4. A friend of our family told me that he asked my mom if she sometimes sees her kids having to discipline her grandkids and thinks, "Ha, that serves them right!" And she said that sometimes she does feel that towards her kids that were a pain for her, but with her children who didn't give her as much of a hard time, she feels mostly empathy. I just thought that was cute. I think when Q grows up and has little 'Quincey's' I will probably think, "ha, serves you right!"
5 comments:
LOVED this post. I think its awesome that you're taking hip hop class. Way to go! I have a very independent little boy too, that looks like a book I need to read. You're an awesome Mommy! :)
I hope that you do find the book useful! One of the most important things in implementing it is doing the "homework" assignments that they give you at the end of each chapter. I was also thinking of starting some sort of online discussion/book club with it because I had a lot of others who expressed interest in it. For me, taking the class and having a discussion/trouble shooting session about the principles in the book helped to make it even more applicable and easy to implement. Let me know if you would be interested in that! Good luck! I think it should give you some good ideas for Quincy, especially because despite his mischeviousness (which is to be expected at his age), he sounds like he is also a little sweetheart :)
Lara
I think an online discussion group would be really great! I'd definitely be interested in that. Thanks for your comments too.:)
Aubrey, thanks so much.. I think you are an awesome mommy too :)
What a fun class! I'm so impressed that you're taking it!
As for Q, he sounds like the sweetest little boy (I only remember him in baby form:). As for the independance factor-Honey, do I hear ya! My mom "cursed" me a million times over with a kid who was exactly like me...and then I had Georgia.
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